Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.
It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.
He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.
He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.
His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.
Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.
Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?
At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.
Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.
But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls
What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?
Let me give some examples:
Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc
Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.
Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools
At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.
Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?
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